Quotations on Mothering and Grandmothering
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The appealing sweetness given the the baby of the species, whether human, monkey or kangaroo, is nature's guileful way of enslaving the mother. Most mothers...although remaining aware of "the sentence of motherhood," manage to concentrate on the rewards. These range from the sheer fun of a gurgling, rolling, squeaking plaything in the home, to the passionate intensity of the love which many mothers feel for their babies. Rachel Billington, from The Great Umbilical
My daughter is every mother's child and every mother is the mother of my child. Glen Close, National Press Club Luncheon 3/12/03
Let me see my daughter like my mother could never see me. Let her see me too. Rebecca Wells, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
Her grief was so intense -- it seemed it could have harmed her, could have caused a heart attack. Her husband described it as a broken heart," said Cheryl Hamilton, manager of respiratory care services at University Medical Center, where Unruh-Wahrer worked as a respiratory therapist.[..] Robert Unruh will be buried Friday at the Southern Arizona Veterans' Memorial Cemetery. His mother's body will accompany her son's in the procession to the cemetery. Mother of soldier killed in Iraq collapses, dies, CNN.com (10/5/2004)
As a young mother I thought that if I gave my girls lots of love and attention, a good home and education, and a wealth of cultural experiences, they would be trouble free. But there is no guarantee of what kids will pattern their lives after. There is only one certainty in the mother--daughter relationship: No matter how hard you try, mother will make mistakes and daughter will, too, but the mistakes daughter makes will probably be "all mother's fault. Faith Ringgold from "My Daughters and Me"
In the summer my mother got
up just after sunrise, so that when she called Matthew and me for breakfast,
the house was filled with sounds and smells of her industrious mornings.
Odors of frying scrapple or codfish cakes drifted up the back stairs,
mingling sometimes with the sharp scent of mustard greens she was cooking
for dinner that night. Up the laundry chute from the cellar floated whiffs
of steamy air and the churning sound of the washing machine. From the dining
room, where she liked to sit ironing and chatting on the telephone, came the
fragrance of hot clean clothes and the sound of her voice: cheerful,
resonant, reverberating a little weirdly through the high ceilinged rooms,
as if she were sitting happily at the bottom of a well.
My mother and I, as we had done many times
before, walked quietly up the Barbers' driveway and through the backyard to
the swing in the oak tree. Mama stopped to pick a few tomatoes from the
overloaded plants in the Barbers' vegetable garden, and I helped her, though
my second tomato was a rotten one that squashed in my fingers.
I was a rather lazy and
dunderheaded apprentice to my mother. She could be snappish and tyrannical,
but I hung around the kitchen anyway, in quest of scrapings of batter, and
because I liked to listen to her. She loved words, not as my father the
minister did, for their ceremonial qualities, but with an off-handed
playfulness that resulted in a combination of wit and nonsense. In her
mischelevous brain, the broad country imagery of her Virginia-bred mother
mingled with the remains of a lady-like education that had classical
pretensions. When she was annoyed at Matthew and me, we were
"pestilential Pestalozzis"; we were also, from time to time, as
deaf as adders, as dumb as oysters, as woolly as sheep's backs; we
occasionally thrashed around like horses with the colic. At odd moments she
addressed recitation to the family cat, whom she disliked; her favorite
selections were versions of "O Captain! My Captain!" ("O Cat!
My Cat! Our fearful trip is done . . .") and Cicero's address to
Catiline ("How long, Cat, will you abuse our patience? . . .").
I read in a science journal that when a woman is pregnant, descendants of the fetus’s cells escape into her bloodstream and continue to exist there for decades after she gives birth to a child. Researchers have found male DNA in the blood samples of mothers 27 years after the birth of their baby
boys. Does Anybody Else Look Like Me? A Parent’s Guide to Raising Multiracial Children by Donna Jackson Nakazawa
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