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All this inculcated adult docility, which wrecks every
civilization as it is wrecking ours, is inhuman and unnatural. We must reconsider our
institution of the Coming of Age, which is too late for some purposes, and too early for
others. There should be a series of Coming of Ages for every individual. The mammals have
their first coming of age when they are weaned; and it is noteworthy that this rather
cruel and selfish operation on the part of the parent has to be performed resolutely, with
claws and teeth; for your little mammal does not want to be weaned, and yields only to a
pretty rough assertion of the right of the parent to be relieved of the child as soon as
the child is old enough to bear the separation. The same thing occurs with children: they
hang on to the mother's apron-string and the father's coat tails as long as they can,
often baffling those sensitive parents who know that children should think for themselves
and fend for themselves, but are too kind to throw them on their own resources with the
ferocity of the domestic cat. The child should have its first coming of age when it is
weaned, another when it can talk, another when it can walk, another when it can dress
itself without assistance; and when it can read, write, count money, and pass an
examination in going a simple errand involving a purchase and a journey by rail or other
public method of locomotion, it should have quite a majority. At present the children of
laborers are soon mobile and able to shift for themselves, whereas it is possible to find
grown-up women in the rich classes who are actually afraid to take a walk in the streets
unattended and unprotected. It is true that this is a superstition from the time when a
retinue was part of the state of persons of quality, and the unattended person was
supposed to be a common person of no quality, earning a living; but this has now become so
absurd that children and young women are no longer told why they are forbidden to go about
alone, and have to be persuaded that the streets are dangerous places, which of course
they are; but people who are not educated to live dangerously have only half a life, and
are more likely to die miserably after all than those who have taken all the common risks
of freedom from their childhood onward as matters of course. |
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