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An experiment. A fresh attempt to produce the just man made
perfect: that is, to make humanity divine. And you will vitiate the experiment if you make
the slightest attempt to abort it into some fancy figure of your own: for example, your
notion of a good man or a womanly woman. If you treat it as a little wild beast to be
tamed, or as a pet to be played with, or even as a means to save you trouble and to make
money for you (and these are our commonest ways), it may fight its way through in spite of
you and save its soul alive; for all its instincts will resist you, and possibly be
strengthened in the resistance; but if you begin with its own holiest aspirations, and
suborn them for your own purposes, then there is hardly any limit to the mischief you may
do. Swear at a child, throw your boots at it, send it flying from the room with a cuff or
a kick; and the experience will be as instructive to the child as a difficulty with a
short-tempered dog or a bull. Francis Place tells us that his father always struck his
children when he found one within his reach. The effect on the young Places seems to have
been simply to make them keep out of their father's way, which was no doubt what he
desired, as far as he desired anything at all. Francis records the habit without
bitterness, having reason to thank his stars that his father respected the inside of his
head whilst cuffing the outside of it; and this made it easy for Francis to do yeoman's
service to his country as that rare and admirable thing, a Freethinker: the only sort of
thinker, I may remark, whose thoughts, and consequently whose religious convictions,
command any respect.
Now Mr Place, senior, would be described by many as a bad father;
and I do not contend that he was a conspicuously good one. But as compared with the
conventional good father who deliberately imposes himself on his son as a god; who takes
advantage of childish credulity and parent worship to persuade his son that what he
approves of is right and what he disapproves of is wrong; who imposes a corresponding
conduct on the child by a system of prohibitions and penalties, rewards and eulogies, for
which he claims divine sanction: compared to this sort of abortionist and monster maker, I
say, Place appears almost as a Providence. Not that it is possible to live with children
any more than with grown-up people without imposing rules of conduct on them. There is a
point at which every person with human nerves has to say to a child "Stop that
noise." But suppose the child asks why! There are various answers in use. The
simplest: "Because it irritates me," may fail; for it may strike the child as
being rather amusing to irritate you; also the child, having comparatively no nerves, may
be unable to conceive your meaning vividly enough. In any case it may want to make a noise
more than to spare your feelings. You may therefore have to explain that the effect of the
irritation will be that you will do something unpleasant if the noise continues. The
something unpleasant may be only a look of suffering to rouse the child's affectionate
sympathy (if it has any), or it may run to forcible expulsion from the room with plenty of
unnecessary violence; but the principle is the same: there are no false pretences
involved: the child learns in a straightforward way that it does not pay to be
inconsiderate. Also, perhaps, that Mamma, who made the child learn the Sermon on the
Mount, is not really a Christian
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