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If you cross-examine the duke and the coster, you will find that
they are not concerned for the scholastic attainments of their children. Ask the duke
whether he could pass the standard examination of twelve-year-old children in elementary
schools, and he will admit, with an entirely placid smile, that he would almost certainly
be ignominiously plucked. And he is so little ashamed of or disadvantaged by his condition
that he is not prepared to spend an hour in remedying it. The coster may resent the
inquiry instead of being amused by it; but his answer, if true, will be the same. What
they both want for their children is the communal training, the apprenticeship to society,
the lessons in holding one's own among people of all sorts with whom one is not, as in the
home, on privileged terms. These can be acquired only by "mixing with the
world," no matter how wicked the world is. No parent cares twopence whether his
children can write Latin hexameters or repeat the dates of the accession of all the
English monarchs since the Conqueror; but all parents are earnestly anxious about the
manners of their children. Better Claude Duval than Kaspar Hauser. Laborers who are
contemptuously anti-clerical in their opinions will send their daughters to the convent
school because the nuns teach them some sort of gentleness of speech and behavior. And
peers who tell you that our public schools are rotten through and through, and that our
Universities ought to be razed to the foundations, send their sons to Eton and Oxford,
Harrow and Cambridge, not only because there is nothing else to be done, but because these
places, though they turn out blackguards and ignoramuses and boobies galore, turn them out
with the habits and manners of the society they belong to. Bad as those manners are in
many respects, they are better than no manners at all. And no individual or family can
possibly teach them. They can be acquired only by living in an organized community in
which they are traditional.
Thus we see that there are reasons for the segregation of children
even in families where the great reason: namely, that children are nuisances to adults,
does not press very hardly, as, for instance, in the houses of the very poor, who can send
their children to play in the streets, or the houses of the very rich, which are so large
that the children's quarters can be kept out of the parents' way like the servants'
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